When Cancer Strikes a Friend is a very well written and insightful book by Bonnie E. Draeger. She helps readers understand some of the things that an individual who is experiencing the turmoil of cancer is going through. She also gives examples of how to best be their friend and offer true help that will make a real difference. Draeger offers clear directions, such as not making open ended statements -along the lines of just let me know what you need and I’ll be there – to the cancer patient. While that may sound good to the giver, it isn’t a lot of help to the cancer patient. They would be better off knowing what specific times you can help as well as what specifically you are willing to do. Draeger also suggests setting boundaries for the type and amount of help individuals can provide so that they don’t experience burnout.
Another part of the book deals with “Ten Gifts of Friendship” and gives great details about each of these gifts. This allows readers to better understand their real value and how they can contribute the most in this situation. There is a great need for the givers to be filled with hope and cheer providing a presence of peace to the cancer victim. However, even while being joyous it can’t be done in a fake and unreal manner.
Draeger includes some very important sections within the book, such as: Questions and Answers with Experts, a glossary explaining many words that are used that may be unfamiliar to the general public as well as a section of resources that are available to help educate the one who desires to give and offer their services.
This is a very well written book and a valuable resource for any friend, family member, church or group wanting to help those who are experiencing the difficulties of cancer.
Darin Godby, a active reader, husband, father and soon to be author.
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