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Review: MWF Seeks BFF by Rachel Bertsche

[ 2 ] April 28, 2012 |

Reviewed by Ann Liu

If Carrie Bradshaw, from Sex and the City, and Mr. Big left New York with her three girlfriends behind, what would she do without them? MWF Seeking BFF is a true story of Rachel Bertsche, a writer herself, who moves to Chicago with her husband, on the search for new friends.

MWF Seeking BFF, or Married White Female Seeking Best Friend Forever, is Rachel’s personal memoir of her yearlong search for a best friend. She dissects the friendship element and shares a lot of research toward understanding the psychological makeup of friends. According to Robin Dunbar, an anthropologist, the size of the brain determines the number of relationships we can maintain. The human brain can maintain 150 relationships. After calculating her social network of friends, families, and acquaintances, Rachel came up short 20 people. She decided to fill the 20 spots with a yearlong project to find a best friend that rivaled her best friends back home.

I found the story quite enjoyable, as Rachel describes the weekly dates and the friends she meets along the way.

Rachel writes in a captivating way, sharing some very humorous stories. The same way that dating is set up, she went on a friend date after friend date, with most dates fizzling out. 365 people is a lot of people to meet and toward the middle of the story, it was difficult to keep track of whom she has gone out with; all the people she met became a blur.

I ponder if the feelings of connections were mutual since the book was written from one perspective. If it had not been for the research and professional people she consulted with, the story would not have survived.

Dating is difficult enough but finding and bonding with friends is harder in this day and age with social networking and the internet. Without a friendship manual available, meeting friends after college becomes a difficult task. I can relate to a lot of what she experienced and commend her for going outside of the norm to find friends. I recommend this book to every female looking to connect with others and yearning to find that best friend.

Rating: ★★★½☆ 

Ann Liu loves to read women’s fiction, chick-lit, romance, and self help books. She lives in sunny Southern California, where she can enjoy her time reading outdoors.

Review copy was provided free of any obligation by Ballantine Books. No monetary or any other form of compensation was received.

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Category: Health, Mind, & Body, Humor, Memoirs, Nonfiction, Relationships, Social Sciences, Women's Studies

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    Colleen Turner says:

    Maybe its just me but this made me laugh :)! Just like the books that make dating sound so scientific, I think that researching your way into a best friend just isn’t the way to go. All relationships, and a best friend relationship especially (since there would be lots of sharing and trust and dependability), seems like it would need to develop organically. Two people might seem perfect for each other on paper but upon meeting just not click. And I think I would shy away from someone who made a “friend date” with me and then seemed so eager to be “besties” right away. Again, it could just be me, but I have always found just meeting people around and starting conversations is the best way to judge whether you have a connection with someone and might be able to develop a friendship.

    Thanks for the review!

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    Carol Wong says:

    I can relate to what the author is taking about too! After retiremetn, I moved from Southern California to Dallas. We could not have stayed in Southern California on the reduced income of retirement. It was very easy to make friends at work, we were always “doing lunch” and going to places together but now plunked down in suburbia, not so easy. Most people are at work in the daytime. I made some friends but it was not as much fun as before. Now we are moving again and more people there have already retired so hope that will help.

    Carol Wong

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