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keeping it up book coverReviewed by Kelly Ferjutz

Did you ever notice that most ‘relationship’ books (euphemism for improving your sex life) seem to be directed at only half the team? Just like in football, there’s two sides, and you need both of them to win the game. No, sex isn’t a game, but wouldn’t it make a lot more sense to have one sensible book that could be easily read by both sides? Separately – or together.

Keeping It Up is a slender (and very inexpensive!) book and is the closest I’ve ever found to being a complete guide. Granted it’s primarily aimed at the male half, but the author strongly encourages reading it together, or taking turns at reading it. Makes a lot of sense to me. The author makes no pretense about either herself or the book. She is not a therapist, but is apparently possessed of a great deal of common sense, which she is able to impart with ease.

Furthermore, it’s written in modern day English that almost anyone should be able to understand without constant trips to the dictionary. There are places where the ‘real’ or scientific names and/or technical terms are used to good effect. However, there is also sufficient explanation to eliminate any obstacles that might appear because of them.

Of course, it all boils down to those dreaded three words “Can We Talk?” (euphemism for Communication!) It isn’t always easy, that’s for sure, but it’s the only way to be certain that both of you are truly on the same side, working together for the best result.

Chapter Four, which is about Communication, is just 7½ pages long, but it should be required reading for everyone of any age, sex, race or other category – period. Good communication is the secret of success in every endeavor engaged in by humans. These simple, common sense suggestions will go a long way toward easing any difficult situation. For sure, they’ll make for much better sex.

I do believe this book could be helpful to any adult in any kind of relationship. Although it’s primarily aimed at folks around 40 or younger, I suspect it could be just as helpful to older folks, whose bodies are perhaps beginning to enter maturity, even while the emotions or intellect may think they’re still young. (Trust me, it happens just that way!) Highly recommended.


First and foremost, Kelly is a reader, then a writer and editor. She adores Regency-set novels, and cozy mysteries. Every now and then, however, she finds something else to enjoy if it has a great premise with characters who belong in there, and fabulous writing! She writes under her own name, as well as her pen-name, Hetty St. James.

Review copy was provided free of any obligation by Cat Skinner. No monetary or any other form of compensation was received.