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Reviewed by Kelly Ferjutz

If your husband would change, he would no longer be the man you fell in love with! Unless, of course, you would change too! I’m not too sure where that would leave you, to be honest.

I don’t consider myself to be a religious person or a panty-waist, either, but I just don’t happen to like profanity. I’ve never used it (and have no intentions of starting now) which is just one reason why I do tend to enjoy mystery and romance novels that are classified as “Christian”. I find that most of these books are not preachy, but are well-written, with great characters and a solid plot. Some of them I’ve chosen because of their Christian status, others came as a — surprise! I’m pretty sure I’ve finished any of them that I’ve started, which isn’t always the case in other genres of books.

This book however, falls into a slightly different area of Christian literature. Perhaps because it is non-fiction, and a sort of ‘self-help’, it is geared more toward the couple who were at one time (or still are, for that matter) involved in their church or religion of whatever variety. I would say this book is definitely Protestant in its outlook. That does NOT mean that people of other faiths could not receive any benefit from reading it, just that it does refer to the entire Bible and the lessons to be found there. I found a lot of common sense solutions as well.  

The author and her husband obviously practice what they preach – and they have been doing it together for 30 years! As Ms. Stoppe works through the dozen or so problem areas highlighted by their own chapter, at the end of each, her husband (a minister in his own right) addresses each topic from a husband’s standpoint. Such an approach can be very helpful.

I think it would be safe to say that if you’ve approached your marriage as a ‘Happily-ever-after’ entity, it might be easier to find yourself in need of a book like this. Fairy-tale endings usually only happen in books. It takes work to make a marriage work well for both partners, and their children.

That is the topic of the first chapter in this book. Others are ‘giving and earning Respect’; falling out of love; being good parents; where is the greener grass – where you are, or across the fence?; am I pretty enough for him?; is it sex or romance?; when money equals stress; fighting and making up; when a crisis hits; ‘If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy’; and back to the fairy-tale ending again.

These are very brief descriptions, but along with varying amounts of information about each, there are also Bible references to each, and a short question/answer section. The Stoppes have an active web-site: www.NoRegretsWoman.com where you can find a variety of video and audio links offering more help.

It seems to me that any couple could find something helpful in these pages. Nowhere does it say ‘church attendance mandatory’; however, you should be aware of the strong emphasis on religion and faith and then use them to help you find the solution to your own difficulties.


First and foremost, Kelly is a reader, then a writer and editor. She adores Regency-set novels, and cozy mysteries. Every now and then, however, she finds something else to enjoy if it has a great premise with characters who belong in there, and fabulous writing! She writes under her own name, as well as her pen-name, Hetty St. James.

Review copy was provided free of any obligation by Harvest House Publishers. No monetary or any other form of compensation was received.