the husband swap book coverReviewed by Jessa Larsen

Louisa met Gilles one night in a bar and they quickly fell head over heels in love with each other. It seemed to be a perfect match until, unfortunately, paradise became stale and they were at a loss for what path to take next. They didn’t want to separate as there was no question that they were still in love, but it just didn’t seem like their paths were destined to continue together.

This is when they make the choice to explore polyamory, the idea that it is possible to fall in love, and maintain that love, with more than one person simultaneously. After much thought and research, they meet another couple and quickly find themselves falling in love with the other spouses. Their lives are changed forever as they begin what is known as a quad.*

As Louisa falls deeply and passionately in love with Morten, Gilles finds his own exhilarating freedom with the exotic whirlwind that is Elena. Unfortunately, the path to happiness is not always smooth and uninterrupted. They find new challenges and their perfect quad takes them to levels they didn’t expect. They work together to accept a new understanding of relationships, society, each other, and themselves as individuals.

Louisa Leontiades shares her story with the world, opening our eyes to a new concept of drama, joy, passion, and conflict. We are shown a peek of what it could mean to throw caution to the wind and shrug off the constraints of societal norms. Her story is not a how-to guide, but simply the story of how her individual take on non-monogamy turned out for herself and those directly involved.

I was first drawn to The Husband Swap: A True Story of Unconventional Love because I also practice polyamory and have dealt with various dynamics associated with the lifestyle. Early attempts didn’t work out as well as I would have liked, but it was something to learn from and improve upon. Other relationship dynamics were wonderful and fulfilling while they lasted, then we parted ways and moved on to bigger and better things. I feel like Louisa and I had a lot in common and I felt like I learned from her experiences. I would have liked to learn a little more about her next endeavor, but I suppose that would need a book of its own.

*There are many forms of relationship dynamics in polyamory and most couples and their various significant others have preferences as to what dynamic makes them happy. For the case of this story and review, Lousis, Gilles, Morten, and Elena are in what is referred to as a closed quad. Four people dating each other, but not dating anyone outside the set four people. In the case of alternate sexualities, who is dating who can vary, but in this particular quad, the females were not dating each other.

Rating: ★★★★★ 

Jessa lives in Utah with her husband, two kids, two small chihuahuas, and a cat called Number One Boots Kitten. She balances her work as a website admin with her hobbies of watching anime and playing video games.

Review copy was provided free of any obligation by Louisa Leontiades. No monetary or any other form of compensation was received.