He-Did-You-A-Favor-204x300Reviewed by Poppy Johnson

Everyone knows someone who has been rejected by a love interest. The reason I say “knows someone” else is because breaking up is so painful for most of us that we often forget the true details of a breakup, like whether we initiated it or the other person became so over us that he or she called it quits. Debra Rogers hits it where it hurts (then feels good) with He Did You a Favor because she speaks from extensive experience when she gives advice about moving on when a relationship fails.

There are fourteen chapters in three main sections describing the breakup itself, how he did you a favor, and how to move on. The author uses cut out tips, strategies, quizzes, real-life testimonials to provide solid advice on how women can process a breakup and get back to a healthy balance. The idea is that the guy did you a favor (which should have prompted you to leave) if he acted, performed or behaved in a way that began to steer the relationship into an unhealthy territory in the first place. In the old days, some women would have tried to stick it out in a bad relationship, hoping beyond hope that the guy would see the light and would start to miraculously treat her better. The author understands, as many of us do today, that if a guy is mistreating us in a relationship, it is his issue, not ours. Either way, the information in the book is good advice for whatever relationship stage you are currently at – beginning, middle, end, or post breakup. It is better to break up well, than to not know how to properly process a breakup and become unable to move on to a better life going forward.

The sections with the most punch are those that include workbook quizzes to help someone gauge where she is on the breakup spectrum. The quizzes are meant to show that a person can live and learn from a breakup, move on to a healthier future and leave behind the bitterness of having been rejected by a seemingly (seemed that way at the time?) true love. I’d recommend this book to anyone in love now, or to anyone who has lost love but is ready to recover.

Rating: ★★★★☆ 

After a decade of working in several NYC law departments and teaching, Poppy decided she enjoyed writing full-time. She currently works as a freelance writing consultant, and lives with her husband and sons on the East Coast.

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