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Bryan Cohen here, guest poster and author, promoting my new book The Post-College Guide to Happiness for The Happiness Blog Tour.

I’m giving away free digital review copies of the book and doing a giveaway for paperback copies, audio copies and even a Kindle Fire! Read on and check out the info below the post.

“The important question is not, what will yield to man a few scattered pleasures, but what will render his life happy on the whole amount.”

– Joseph Addison

Party Hearty

When I left college, I didn’t know what to do with myself. I’d had a limited amount of freedom at college and I’d used it to party hearty when I had the chance, but now I was in a whole new world with a job, an apartment and a future. Being part of the theater community meant that I had no shortage of people who wanted to go out to get a shot or a few beers and even though I wasn’t a big drinker, I certainly wanted to make and keep my new friends. It was fun and it was crazy and I certainly had a good time while I was out with these people, but I felt sort of strange when I got home. Empty.

Many of the people I went out with were in the same boat as me, in that they had recently moved to town as well. Others…well, they’d been doing the same thing for the last five to ten years. Taking a few comedy classes here and acting in a play there. They weren’t really moving. I started to worry that if I continued to enjoy myself solely in the now, I might end up never moving forward.

I’m not going to say that you should never go out and have a good time with friends. You need that social aspect of your life or you’ll get lonely. But if you make these wild party times the focus of your life, you might end up not making a whole lot of progress . The key is to sit down and think about what could add to your long-term happiness as well as your short-term happiness. Usually, what you’ll think of are in the form of long-term projects or goals that require a little bit of work every day. If you find that partying takes up too much of your free time, you may need to sacrifice some of your short-term enjoyment for your long-term happiness.

It’s a tough trade-off and not everybody will understand. They’ll wonder why you’d need to stay in if you don’t have to get up early the next day. You need to be firm with this though. If you need to set aside a few hours to work on a book or a business or anything, it needs to be done and if you keep putting it off it’ll never happen.

If you love partying but you have that empty feeling I’ve described, try this on for size. Take some time off cold-turkey and work like crazy on a long-term goal. Once you accomplish it, have a celebration of epic proportions. Repeat the same strategy over and over and you’ll be set with both short and long term joy.

Giveaway

Bryan Cohen is giving away 61 paperback and audio copies of The Post-College Guide to Happiness and a Kindle Fire between now and May 7th, 2012 on The Happiness Blog Tour.

All entrants receive a free digital review copy of The Post-College Guide to Happiness.

Bryan hopes to give away at least 1,000 copies during the blog tour. To enter, post a comment with your e-mail address or send an e-mail to postcollegehappiness (at) gmail.com. Bryan will draw the names at the end of the tour. Entries will be counted through Sunday, May 6th.

Bryan Cohen is a writer, actor and comedian from Dresher, Pennsylvania. He graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill in 2005 with degrees in English and Dramatic Art and a minor in Creative Writing. He has written nine books including 1,000 Creative Writing Prompts: Ideas for Blogs, Scripts, Stories and More, 500 Writing Prompts for Kids: First Grade through Fifth Grade, Writer on the Side: How to Write Your Book Around Your 9 to 5 Job and his new book, 1,000 Character Writing Prompts: Villains, Heroes and Hams for Scripts, Stories and More. His website Build Creative Writing Ideas helps over 25,000 visitors a month to push past writer’s block and stay motivated.

Feel free to follow along with the tour at The Happiness Blog Tour Hub Page.