How to F*ck a Woman book coverReviewed by Nina Longfield

At times insightful, sometimes funny, and always candid, Ali Adler covers her subject very well. Adler’s How to F*ck a Woman is a sex guide. In her introduction, Adler explains why she chose to write a book about sex. How to F*ck a Woman is the how-to manual she wrote to answer men’s general questions regarding women and sex with women. She writes from the assumption that all a man really wants is sex. (On the other side, she writes that women just want to be understood.) With insight and humor, Adler delves into the relationship dichotomy as she sees it from the male side issuing advice that might ultimately get the man into the woman’s bed (or vice versa).

Marketed as eighty percent relationship handbook and twenty percent sex manual, author Ali Adler seems to have a healthy view of relationship and sex being co-existent in creating a fulfilling liaison. Within How to F*ck a Woman, Adler cover the gamut of relationship stages from dating to boringly married. Cartoon illustrations peppered throughout the manuscript further the humor of this book and give visual representation to the chapter’s topics. Although How to F*ck a Woman was expressly written for a male audience, the final chapter is for women and how a woman might help a man fulfill her pleasure needs.

I picked up How to F*ck a Woman expecting to laugh. Although sometimes fun, intriguing and well written, I found too often that Adler’s exposition felt like it was dragging repeatedly over the same ground. The text became somewhat heavy and repetitive, while some of Adler’s frankness took a turn as being a bit off-putting in places. (Of course, I am not the target audience for How to F*ck a Woman so others might delight in Adler’s frankness.) I was also put off by Adler’s rather derisive typecasting of the male and female roles as related to sex and relationships. Despite some of the slowness and reiteration of topics, How to F*ck a Woman was a somewhat interesting and definitely a different read. It is a book I would love to discuss in an uninhibited book/critique group just to hear other opinions on this unique tome and how Ali Adler presents the subject of sex, relationship, and gender roles.

Rating: ★★★½☆ 

Nina Longfield is a writer living in Oregon’s fertile wine country. When she is not reading or writing in her spare time, Nina enjoys hiking in the hills surrounding her cabin.

Review copy was provided free of any obligation by Weinstein Books. No monetary or any other form of compensation was received.