Reviewed by Colleen Turner
Anyone who has been in a relationship long enough knows that things change. That person that once made every nerve in your body pulse with excitement just by entering the room can now sit next to you on the couch without you even registering they walked in. All those annoying habits you found so adorable years ago are now just annoying. Every conversation, every argument, every everything…you’ve done it all before. So what happens if one day you look at that person and realize you cannot stand to look at them for one second longer? When you search for your love for them in your heart and…nothing?
This is the dilemma Lauren and Ryan Cooper find themselves in. They have been together since college and, after eleven years, they have reached the point where they make each other miserable. Knowing this can go on no longer they come up with a plan: they will separate for one year, each one using this space to figure out what they really want out of life and hopefully, during that time, a way to fall back in love with each other and save their marriage. The only rule is they cannot contact each other until the year is up. The rest is up to each of them to decide.
As Lauren sets out on this scary yet exciting year on her own she discovers things about life she never realized before: that love, marriage and commitment are different for every person and couple, that life is not mapped out neatly for anyone and every individual has to decide what they want out of life, that, no matter what, she will be okay and can handle anything life throws at her. But does she want to handle life’s curveballs on her own? Even if she wants someone by her side, does she want that person to be Ryan?
Please excuse me if a gush a little over Taylor Jenkins Reid because she has become one of my very favorite authors! When I read her first novel, Forever, Interrupted, I was so impressed with her ability to present the emotions of her characters so vividly that the reader feels everything – the anger, frustration, heartbreak – right along with them. Well, I am happy to say that Ms. Reid topped herself with After I Do, again presenting a story and situation that so thoroughly grabbed me that I literally had trouble putting the book down and doing anything else. Even when I did have to put the book down for mundane things like sleeping and working I was thinking about the characters and what they would do next.
I think part of what pulled me into this story is that I found so much of myself in Lauren. I have also been with my husband since college and could relate to that feeling of routineness and complacency that seems to come so naturally to a couple who have been together for a long period of time. While I am still very much in love with my husband I could understand what she was talking about and appreciate her and Ryan’s choice to spend the year apart to see if they could find a way back to each other. Every single character is so real and flawed that you love them and can relate to each one, feeling every pain and joy along with them. It’s quite remarkable to me when an author is able to create a world that has you not only entertained but really thinking about yourself in the same situations. I am going through a similar situation with my grandfather that Lauren and her family go through with her grandmother in After I Do and I found myself crying and thinking about how much of a steady rock my husband is in my life. I was staring at him with such pitiful appreciation at one point that it became clear I was making him slightly uncomfortable. That is how invested in the story I was!
Watching Lauren come into her own was amazing. She has such a wonderful, quirky family and seeing how much they supported her and how each opened her eyes to the various ways to love was touching to say the least. As the story was wrapping up I really had no idea whether Lauren and Ryan would end up together or not and that made it that much more realistic. Because in life who knows what will really happen?
I cannot recommend After I Do highly enough. If you have ever questioned the route your life had taken or wondered in the deepest part of your heart whether the person you were with was the right one for you pick it up now. Even if you just want a wonderful story that runs the gambit of emotions give it a go, it is well worth the read.
Colleen lives in Tampa, Florida with her husband, son, their dog Oliver and their fish Finn. When not working or taking care of her family she has her nose stuck in a book (and, let’s face it, often when she is working or taking care of her family as well). Nothing excites her more than discovering a new author to obsess over or a hidden jewel of a book to worship.
Review copy was provided free of any obligation by Washington Square Press. No monetary or any other form of compensation was received.