As evident by the title of 5 Conversations You Must Have with Your Son, Vicki Courtney relates that there are five essential conversations that every mother should have with her son. These conversations cover what parents (especially mothers) should do to instill independence in their boys and to give them concrete advice on making it in the real world. I particularly enjoyed the fact that Courtney’s advice to mothers was to let the boys develop naturally into men. Boys need to love and respect their mothers, but not be smothered by their overprotective ways.
Each chapter is aptly named for a “season” in the boy’s life, and the chapters are organized into the five conversations which include themes such as: growing up, being a good role model, sexual intelligence, managing one’s emotions and defining manhood. Also within the chapters are pull outs which feature statistics on teen behavior or information for parents interested in providing the best support for their sons as they grow to adulthood.
5 Conversations is highly informative and can be a conversation starter for mothers interested in developing a new relationship with a son as the boy begins to mature into manhood. The book offers new ways to approach important topics such as sex education, the influence of parental controls and decision making, faith-based family structures and the physiological changes that accompany physical ones. I would highly recommend this book to anyone raising a son, or anyone who is in the position to mentor a young man and help him through the awkward teenage years.
After a decade of working in several NYC law departments and teaching, Poppy decided she enjoyed writing full-time. She currently works as a freelance writing consultant, and lives with her husband and sons on the East Coast.
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